Beta Life Series – Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Beta Life Series – Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Beta Life Series

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Samuel Osho

It’s a competitive world, but I am resolute about my stance not to compete with anyone. Some few years ago, I shelved the idea of joining the queue to enroll in the endless rat race. 

 

On this other side, I see peace smiling at me and serenity lodges in my abode all day. In this rare cubicle of uniqueness, I celebrate the victory of others without a tinge of anxiety or jealousy. This is the best way to live your life and get the best out of your days. 

So, am I sitting on my oars or complacent? Oh! No, I push myself so hard, and my standards are super high, but this is the difference – I compete with myself.

Whatever I am doing to get better, I am doing solely for myself and not for anyone to see. A version of me today has to be much better than the version of me you met six months ago.

That is the goal!

A drive for success and greatness that is based on comparisons is not only myopic; it tends to be short-lived. 

It’s obvious that we love metrics but it’s an insult to the investment in you to compare yourself with another person. 

 

When you live your life aimed at becoming the best version of yourself, there will be no need for unhealthy competition that hurts others so you can win. 
I hope you find the peace and joy that comes with competing with yourself and becoming the best version of yourself. 

 

Beta Life Series – Accepting Who You Are

Beta Life Series – Accepting Who You Are

Beta Life Series

Accepting Who You Are

Samuel Osho

If you engage in a variety of chitchats, you will probably have a library saturated with diverse versions of yourself. It usually consists of what B told you about your emotions, what F said about your body physique, what M said your voice sounds like and what Z affirms as the finite perimeters of your competencies. 

It’s insane how we believe everything hook, line, and sinker. It’s more painful to see how we respond seamlessly to the different messages that people have told us about ourselves. 

“Oh! He is probably right about it, I am shy,” you said to yourself. 

What if it’s false? What if you are an introvert and naturally reserved? Does that make you shy? I can bet that you are not as timid as people paint you to be.

Though your boss said you are dumb, it’s not true. You can’t be dumb and still be able to understand what I am saying here. You are super smart and you need to start believing you are one heck of a genius. 

Beyond what B, F, M, and Z has to say about you, what do you have to say about yourself? 

Yes, you, tell me what you really think about yourself. 

Oh! I hear you say, 

“I am smart, intelligent, confident, gracious, blessed, bold, joyful.”

You are right. 

Remember that I did not say, “You are perfect.” 

 

No one is perfect and no one is ever going to be perfect, so you have to accept who you are and know yourself enough to believe that you deserve a place on this planet.

Knowing that the person you are is enough to accomplish your life’s purpose will liberate you from the prison of other people’s opinion about you. 

Beta Life Series – How to Reject Rejection

Beta Life Series – How to Reject Rejection

Beta Life Series

How to Reject Rejection

Samuel Osho

When Colonel Harlan Sanders hit the streets with his pressure cooker and unique recipe for cooking Southern fried chicken, he was rejected 300 times before he found someone that believed in his dream. A testimony of his triumph over 300 rejections is evident in over 22,500 KFC restaurants in 136 countries. 
 
If you are going to be successful in life, you must be able to handle rejection. Most importantly, don’t take it personal and retreat into resentment and self-pity. 

You get rejected when you don’t get the promotion you wanted; you don’t get the job you applied for, you don’t get the raise you want so badly, you don’t get a date you requested or get fired. 

Rejection is a part of the cycle that makes life what it is. 

What should be your default response to rejection? 
As rightly put by the authors of Chicken Soup for the Soul, Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen: “When someone says no, you say ‘Next!'” 

To be honest, you must realize that it is a numbers game; there are over 7 billion people on the planet! Someone somewhere is waiting to say yes. All you need to do is move on.

Your idea got turned down, not you. Your manuscript was rejected, not you. 

You must believe that nothing is wrong with you. Maybe you need to work better on that proposal application or spend more time on that manuscript or acquire more skills before you ask for a raise.  

But I must tell you that it has nothing to do about you. 

Did I just hear you say, “Next!”?

That should be your new motto.  

Beta Life Series – Go Back to the Basics

Beta Life Series – Go Back to the Basics

Beta Life Series

Go Back to the Basics

Samuel Osho

Why bother about the union between a noun and an adjective when you don’t know what a verb looks like? 

How can you create lovely sounds when you can’t differentiate musical notes?

There is a reason why we started our journey in kindergarten. 

Kindergarten (German) means children’s garden. A garden captures the journey of a seed into tiny flowers in a nursery pot.  

In the garden, seeds are nourished, nurtured and nursed until they are ready for the unpredictable clime of the forest. 

In kindergarten, you learnt the basics. From alphabets to numbers to drawings to speech; all layers of the human faculty were stirred and engaged by seemingly simple tasks. 

Kindergarten so important and that’s why it’s at the base. Yes, it precedes everything else. 

We learn the alphabets before creating sentences.

We learn how to make bricks before we build. 

We learn logic before we start to code. 

If there is anything so important that deserves your steadied focus all the time – it is learning the basics.  

Everything can go wrong when you ignore the basics, you can’t perform at your best. 

Of what importance is the height of a skyscraper with a faulty base, it is going to collapse anyway. 

So, why not take some time and focus on the basics. 

When you master the basics, you can do exploits and replicate success. 

It’s easy to dream about being the world’s best musician when you know how the musical notes work.

And knowing nouns, verbs, and adjectives even in their disguised apparels can make a hell of a writer out of you. 

Go back to the basics. 

Beta Life Series – Why Your Passion Matters

Beta Life Series – Why Your Passion Matters

Beta Life Series

Why Your Passion Matters

Samuel Osho

 A few years ago, “a passionate writer” dropped this question on Twitter for J.K. Rowling:

“What if the passionate writer is broke and can’t afford a MacBook Air?” 

And here comes Rowling’s iconic response: 

“I wrote first two Potters (Harry Potter Book) by hand and typed them on a 10-year-old typewriter. All a writer needs is talent and ink.” 

 

You must have heard countless chatters about a passion for A and J but there are no results to back up the evidence of their passion. 

Does this sound familiar? 

“Oh! All I need to be a superb photographer is a new DSLR camera.” 

The camera shows up, and nothing happens. 

“All I need is a standard microphone and I will start my podcast.” 

You got the microphone as a birthday gift, but you are yet to record a sample podcast show with it.

Passion expresses itself through drives and desires. It’s a fire; you can’t hide it; it burns and consumes everything in its path. As the tender flame glows and grows, everyone can see if it’s a blue or a red flame. 

If you are looking for excuses not to get the work done, you will find one. We often use a lack of specific tools as embroidery for our excuses. 

It’s time to stop looking for a MacBook Air before you get that book done, if you think about it enough, you will find hundreds of alternatives to get the job done. 

 

It’s great if you have the tools but it has often been observed that what stops us from becoming productive is necessary not lack of tools but an absence of passion and drive. 

Let your passion take the wheels and drive you to the finish line. And if passion can’t get the job done, you should add lots of discipline.

The 10 Best TED Talks for Writers

The 10 Best TED Talks for Writers

The 10 Best TED Talks for Writers

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FEBRUARY, 2019

Samuel Osho
The evolution of TED over the years is a true testament to the potency of compelling stories. These stories are birthed from daily interactions with ideas, people and places. TED has not only provided a platform for storytellers to share ideas worth spreading, but it has also created an open library of intellectual resources. 
From its humble beginning in 1984, TED has evolved from a conference limited to topics on Technology, Entertainment, and Design to a wide range of issues – from governance to healthcare to business to psychology – in more than 100 languages. However, these short but powerful talks have served as a tool of change in influencing, educating and transforming the psyche of an unending audience.

 

In this vast library of insightful speeches, you will find stories that tickle your fancy as a writer. I have carefully rummaged through the endless stack of talks and searched for ones that will appeal to writers and authors. These talks are a blend of practical ideas and instructive insights. 

Let’s take a look at my curated list of TED talks for writers.

My 10 Best TED Talks for Writers

The best-selling author of 2016 memoir, “Eat, Pray, Love,” Elizabeth Gilbert talks about the awkward things we expect from creative minds – artists, writers, and geniuses. Gilbert’s story hinges on the overwhelming burden of innovative minds – staying creative and consistently churning out incredible works. The talk was topped off with a deliberate demystification of the sacredness attached to “being a genius,” showing that every human has a genius in them.  

In this humorous talk, American writer Anne Lamott ponders on the timeless lessons she has learnt in her 61 years of existence. It is a bouquet of wisdom that equips your soul with inspiring insights on family, writing, death, the meaning of God, grace and what it means to be human in a chaotic world full of uncertainties.

Oscar-winning American filmmaker Andrew Stanton knows a lot about great stories and how to tell them, evident in the creation of “Toy Story,” “Finding Nemo,” and “WALL-E.” His engaging talk is a map that shows you the path from the end to the beginning of compelling stories.

In a fast-paced world where charismatic and extroverted individuals usually take the front seats, it can be severe and daunting for introverts to be comfortable in their skins. However, in this exciting talk, Susan Cain extols the power of introversion while reflecting on how a massive chunk of creative minds – artists and writers happen to be introverts.

In a world of convoluted stories about Africa, award-winning Nigerian writer Chimamanda Adichie exposed the precariousness associated with believing a single story about a person, a country, and a continent. She told the story of how she found her authentic cultural voice as a writer while reading the works of other great writers. Adichie canvasses for well-rounded stories that have the power to heal our world and make it a paradise.

In this hilarious talk, writer and blogger Tim Urban shares about his ongoing struggles with procrastination including the adventures and the hard truths. He explores the logic behind procrastination and why the buzz of deadlines seems to suddenly reawaken a procrastinator’s dormant energy to complete tasks. While he is yet to find a solution for his chronic procrastination, his journey challenges us to think deeply about why it’s easy for us to embrace procrastination.

“Read a thousand books, and your words will flow like a river.” – Lisa See

American psychologist and author Adam Grant delves into the unique traits of creative people and how they come up with great ideas. Grant shares his studies on “originals” – innovative minds who take responsibility for the ownership and actualization of their ideas. In this talk, you will be exposed to three unique habits of originals.

In the search for creativity, writers and artists go through pains, self-doubts, and fears. American novelist Amy Tan gives an in-depth analysis of the creative process while sharing her personal encounters with sheer serendipity on seemingly normal days.

 

Chicago-based Nigerian writer Luvvie Ajayi chronicles her fights with her phobias – from going on a solo vacation to swimming with dolphins to jumping out of a plane. The “professional troublemaker” talks about her rise to stardom as a blogger in the parlance of speaking truth to power. In her inspiring talk, Ajayi shares three questions to ask yourself if you are afraid of speaking up or keeping quiet.

American author of six novels, John Dufresne, delves into the art of storytelling in a way that appeals to fiction writers. The talk is a trip inside a writer’s mind and how a compelling story is created. Dufresne took his audience by the hands and showed them how to create a masterpiece that everyone wants to read and listen to. In fact, if you listen to this speech, you will be half-way into the completion of your short story.

 

In conclusion, writing is both a craft and a form of art. You can learn to be better both in honing your creative and imaginative skills. I hope you found my curated list inspiring and full of practical tips that you can start using straight away in your writing engagements.
 
Perhaps, I have omitted your favorite TED talk for writers, kindly drop a note in the comment section below stating your favorite talk.

I’d love to check them out!

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