Beta Life Series – How to Reject Rejection

Beta Life Series – How to Reject Rejection

Beta Life Series

How to Reject Rejection

Samuel Osho

When Colonel Harlan Sanders hit the streets with his pressure cooker and unique recipe for cooking Southern fried chicken, he was rejected 300 times before he found someone that believed in his dream. A testimony of his triumph over 300 rejections is evident in over 22,500 KFC restaurants in 136 countries. 
 
If you are going to be successful in life, you must be able to handle rejection. Most importantly, don’t take it personal and retreat into resentment and self-pity. 

You get rejected when you don’t get the promotion you wanted; you don’t get the job you applied for, you don’t get the raise you want so badly, you don’t get a date you requested or get fired. 

Rejection is a part of the cycle that makes life what it is. 

What should be your default response to rejection? 
As rightly put by the authors of Chicken Soup for the Soul, Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen: “When someone says no, you say ‘Next!'” 

To be honest, you must realize that it is a numbers game; there are over 7 billion people on the planet! Someone somewhere is waiting to say yes. All you need to do is move on.

Your idea got turned down, not you. Your manuscript was rejected, not you. 

You must believe that nothing is wrong with you. Maybe you need to work better on that proposal application or spend more time on that manuscript or acquire more skills before you ask for a raise.  

But I must tell you that it has nothing to do about you. 

Did I just hear you say, “Next!”?

That should be your new motto.  

Beta Life Series – Go Back to the Basics

Beta Life Series – Go Back to the Basics

Beta Life Series

Go Back to the Basics

Samuel Osho

Why bother about the union between a noun and an adjective when you don’t know what a verb looks like? 

How can you create lovely sounds when you can’t differentiate musical notes?

There is a reason why we started our journey in kindergarten. 

Kindergarten (German) means children’s garden. A garden captures the journey of a seed into tiny flowers in a nursery pot.  

In the garden, seeds are nourished, nurtured and nursed until they are ready for the unpredictable clime of the forest. 

In kindergarten, you learnt the basics. From alphabets to numbers to drawings to speech; all layers of the human faculty were stirred and engaged by seemingly simple tasks. 

Kindergarten so important and that’s why it’s at the base. Yes, it precedes everything else. 

We learn the alphabets before creating sentences.

We learn how to make bricks before we build. 

We learn logic before we start to code. 

If there is anything so important that deserves your steadied focus all the time – it is learning the basics.  

Everything can go wrong when you ignore the basics, you can’t perform at your best. 

Of what importance is the height of a skyscraper with a faulty base, it is going to collapse anyway. 

So, why not take some time and focus on the basics. 

When you master the basics, you can do exploits and replicate success. 

It’s easy to dream about being the world’s best musician when you know how the musical notes work.

And knowing nouns, verbs, and adjectives even in their disguised apparels can make a hell of a writer out of you. 

Go back to the basics. 

Beta Life Series – Why Your Passion Matters

Beta Life Series – Why Your Passion Matters

Beta Life Series

Why Your Passion Matters

Samuel Osho

 A few years ago, “a passionate writer” dropped this question on Twitter for J.K. Rowling:

“What if the passionate writer is broke and can’t afford a MacBook Air?” 

And here comes Rowling’s iconic response: 

“I wrote first two Potters (Harry Potter Book) by hand and typed them on a 10-year-old typewriter. All a writer needs is talent and ink.” 

 

You must have heard countless chatters about a passion for A and J but there are no results to back up the evidence of their passion. 

Does this sound familiar? 

“Oh! All I need to be a superb photographer is a new DSLR camera.” 

The camera shows up, and nothing happens. 

“All I need is a standard microphone and I will start my podcast.” 

You got the microphone as a birthday gift, but you are yet to record a sample podcast show with it.

Passion expresses itself through drives and desires. It’s a fire; you can’t hide it; it burns and consumes everything in its path. As the tender flame glows and grows, everyone can see if it’s a blue or a red flame. 

If you are looking for excuses not to get the work done, you will find one. We often use a lack of specific tools as embroidery for our excuses. 

It’s time to stop looking for a MacBook Air before you get that book done, if you think about it enough, you will find hundreds of alternatives to get the job done. 

 

It’s great if you have the tools but it has often been observed that what stops us from becoming productive is necessary not lack of tools but an absence of passion and drive. 

Let your passion take the wheels and drive you to the finish line. And if passion can’t get the job done, you should add lots of discipline.

Beta Life – Find Yourself

Beta Life – Find Yourself

Beta Life Series

Find Yourself

Samuel Osho

What makes me happy?

What am I good at?

What things do I value in life?

If you have perfect answers to these questions, then this is not for you.

 

In this pool of information overload, how do you prepare yourself for the vicissitudes of life?  

You read twelve books a day? 

Listen to twenty podcasts a week? 

Increase your “net worth” by adding famous people to your network? 

Take twenty online courses a month? 

No, find yourself first. Yes, just like Socrates said, “Know thyself.”  

You are such a big and beautiful encyclopedia that needs to be digested and understood. If you fail to uncap the diverse complexities that make you a unique being, everything else you do might be of no significant impact.

The age-long questions of self-discovery stare at us all the time. But, we can use Rudyard Kipling’s six honest serving men – What, Why, When, How, Where and Who, to untangle knots of enigmas. 

With these men and their shovels, you can dig deeper into the core of your being; you can uncover hidden treasures, and chart pathways into new lands.

 

Books are superb, podcasts are of great benefit, networking is noteworthy, and online courses are superchargers, but if you don’t know who you are, you are a ball in a spinning wheel. You will go everywhere the wheel directs you and ends up a dead ball when the wheel stops. 

Start with these three free resources:  

The 10 Best TED Talks for Writers

The 10 Best TED Talks for Writers

The 10 Best TED Talks for Writers

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FEBRUARY, 2019

Samuel Osho
The evolution of TED over the years is a true testament to the potency of compelling stories. These stories are birthed from daily interactions with ideas, people and places. TED has not only provided a platform for storytellers to share ideas worth spreading, but it has also created an open library of intellectual resources. 
From its humble beginning in 1984, TED has evolved from a conference limited to topics on Technology, Entertainment, and Design to a wide range of issues – from governance to healthcare to business to psychology – in more than 100 languages. However, these short but powerful talks have served as a tool of change in influencing, educating and transforming the psyche of an unending audience.

 

In this vast library of insightful speeches, you will find stories that tickle your fancy as a writer. I have carefully rummaged through the endless stack of talks and searched for ones that will appeal to writers and authors. These talks are a blend of practical ideas and instructive insights. 

Let’s take a look at my curated list of TED talks for writers.

My 10 Best TED Talks for Writers

The best-selling author of 2016 memoir, “Eat, Pray, Love,” Elizabeth Gilbert talks about the awkward things we expect from creative minds – artists, writers, and geniuses. Gilbert’s story hinges on the overwhelming burden of innovative minds – staying creative and consistently churning out incredible works. The talk was topped off with a deliberate demystification of the sacredness attached to “being a genius,” showing that every human has a genius in them.  

In this humorous talk, American writer Anne Lamott ponders on the timeless lessons she has learnt in her 61 years of existence. It is a bouquet of wisdom that equips your soul with inspiring insights on family, writing, death, the meaning of God, grace and what it means to be human in a chaotic world full of uncertainties.

Oscar-winning American filmmaker Andrew Stanton knows a lot about great stories and how to tell them, evident in the creation of “Toy Story,” “Finding Nemo,” and “WALL-E.” His engaging talk is a map that shows you the path from the end to the beginning of compelling stories.

In a fast-paced world where charismatic and extroverted individuals usually take the front seats, it can be severe and daunting for introverts to be comfortable in their skins. However, in this exciting talk, Susan Cain extols the power of introversion while reflecting on how a massive chunk of creative minds – artists and writers happen to be introverts.

In a world of convoluted stories about Africa, award-winning Nigerian writer Chimamanda Adichie exposed the precariousness associated with believing a single story about a person, a country, and a continent. She told the story of how she found her authentic cultural voice as a writer while reading the works of other great writers. Adichie canvasses for well-rounded stories that have the power to heal our world and make it a paradise.

In this hilarious talk, writer and blogger Tim Urban shares about his ongoing struggles with procrastination including the adventures and the hard truths. He explores the logic behind procrastination and why the buzz of deadlines seems to suddenly reawaken a procrastinator’s dormant energy to complete tasks. While he is yet to find a solution for his chronic procrastination, his journey challenges us to think deeply about why it’s easy for us to embrace procrastination.

“Read a thousand books, and your words will flow like a river.” – Lisa See

American psychologist and author Adam Grant delves into the unique traits of creative people and how they come up with great ideas. Grant shares his studies on “originals” – innovative minds who take responsibility for the ownership and actualization of their ideas. In this talk, you will be exposed to three unique habits of originals.

In the search for creativity, writers and artists go through pains, self-doubts, and fears. American novelist Amy Tan gives an in-depth analysis of the creative process while sharing her personal encounters with sheer serendipity on seemingly normal days.

 

Chicago-based Nigerian writer Luvvie Ajayi chronicles her fights with her phobias – from going on a solo vacation to swimming with dolphins to jumping out of a plane. The “professional troublemaker” talks about her rise to stardom as a blogger in the parlance of speaking truth to power. In her inspiring talk, Ajayi shares three questions to ask yourself if you are afraid of speaking up or keeping quiet.

American author of six novels, John Dufresne, delves into the art of storytelling in a way that appeals to fiction writers. The talk is a trip inside a writer’s mind and how a compelling story is created. Dufresne took his audience by the hands and showed them how to create a masterpiece that everyone wants to read and listen to. In fact, if you listen to this speech, you will be half-way into the completion of your short story.

 

In conclusion, writing is both a craft and a form of art. You can learn to be better both in honing your creative and imaginative skills. I hope you found my curated list inspiring and full of practical tips that you can start using straight away in your writing engagements.
 
Perhaps, I have omitted your favorite TED talk for writers, kindly drop a note in the comment section below stating your favorite talk.

I’d love to check them out!

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