Beta Life Series – Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Beta Life Series – Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Beta Life Series

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Samuel Osho

It’s a competitive world, but I am resolute about my stance not to compete with anyone. Some few years ago, I shelved the idea of joining the queue to enroll in the endless rat race. 

 

On this other side, I see peace smiling at me and serenity lodges in my abode all day. In this rare cubicle of uniqueness, I celebrate the victory of others without a tinge of anxiety or jealousy. This is the best way to live your life and get the best out of your days. 

So, am I sitting on my oars or complacent? Oh! No, I push myself so hard, and my standards are super high, but this is the difference – I compete with myself.

Whatever I am doing to get better, I am doing solely for myself and not for anyone to see. A version of me today has to be much better than the version of me you met six months ago.

That is the goal!

A drive for success and greatness that is based on comparisons is not only myopic; it tends to be short-lived. 

It’s obvious that we love metrics but it’s an insult to the investment in you to compare yourself with another person. 

 

When you live your life aimed at becoming the best version of yourself, there will be no need for unhealthy competition that hurts others so you can win. 
I hope you find the peace and joy that comes with competing with yourself and becoming the best version of yourself. 

 

Beta Life Series – Accepting Who You Are

Beta Life Series – Accepting Who You Are

Beta Life Series

Accepting Who You Are

Samuel Osho

If you engage in a variety of chitchats, you will probably have a library saturated with diverse versions of yourself. It usually consists of what B told you about your emotions, what F said about your body physique, what M said your voice sounds like and what Z affirms as the finite perimeters of your competencies. 

It’s insane how we believe everything hook, line, and sinker. It’s more painful to see how we respond seamlessly to the different messages that people have told us about ourselves. 

“Oh! He is probably right about it, I am shy,” you said to yourself. 

What if it’s false? What if you are an introvert and naturally reserved? Does that make you shy? I can bet that you are not as timid as people paint you to be.

Though your boss said you are dumb, it’s not true. You can’t be dumb and still be able to understand what I am saying here. You are super smart and you need to start believing you are one heck of a genius. 

Beyond what B, F, M, and Z has to say about you, what do you have to say about yourself? 

Yes, you, tell me what you really think about yourself. 

Oh! I hear you say, 

“I am smart, intelligent, confident, gracious, blessed, bold, joyful.”

You are right. 

Remember that I did not say, “You are perfect.” 

 

No one is perfect and no one is ever going to be perfect, so you have to accept who you are and know yourself enough to believe that you deserve a place on this planet.

Knowing that the person you are is enough to accomplish your life’s purpose will liberate you from the prison of other people’s opinion about you. 

Beta Life Series – How to Reject Rejection

Beta Life Series – How to Reject Rejection

Beta Life Series

How to Reject Rejection

Samuel Osho

When Colonel Harlan Sanders hit the streets with his pressure cooker and unique recipe for cooking Southern fried chicken, he was rejected 300 times before he found someone that believed in his dream. A testimony of his triumph over 300 rejections is evident in over 22,500 KFC restaurants in 136 countries. 
 
If you are going to be successful in life, you must be able to handle rejection. Most importantly, don’t take it personal and retreat into resentment and self-pity. 

You get rejected when you don’t get the promotion you wanted; you don’t get the job you applied for, you don’t get the raise you want so badly, you don’t get a date you requested or get fired. 

Rejection is a part of the cycle that makes life what it is. 

What should be your default response to rejection? 
As rightly put by the authors of Chicken Soup for the Soul, Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen: “When someone says no, you say ‘Next!'” 

To be honest, you must realize that it is a numbers game; there are over 7 billion people on the planet! Someone somewhere is waiting to say yes. All you need to do is move on.

Your idea got turned down, not you. Your manuscript was rejected, not you. 

You must believe that nothing is wrong with you. Maybe you need to work better on that proposal application or spend more time on that manuscript or acquire more skills before you ask for a raise.  

But I must tell you that it has nothing to do about you. 

Did I just hear you say, “Next!”?

That should be your new motto.  

Beta Life Series – Go Back to the Basics

Beta Life Series – Go Back to the Basics

Beta Life Series

Go Back to the Basics

Samuel Osho

Why bother about the union between a noun and an adjective when you don’t know what a verb looks like? 

How can you create lovely sounds when you can’t differentiate musical notes?

There is a reason why we started our journey in kindergarten. 

Kindergarten (German) means children’s garden. A garden captures the journey of a seed into tiny flowers in a nursery pot.  

In the garden, seeds are nourished, nurtured and nursed until they are ready for the unpredictable clime of the forest. 

In kindergarten, you learnt the basics. From alphabets to numbers to drawings to speech; all layers of the human faculty were stirred and engaged by seemingly simple tasks. 

Kindergarten so important and that’s why it’s at the base. Yes, it precedes everything else. 

We learn the alphabets before creating sentences.

We learn how to make bricks before we build. 

We learn logic before we start to code. 

If there is anything so important that deserves your steadied focus all the time – it is learning the basics.  

Everything can go wrong when you ignore the basics, you can’t perform at your best. 

Of what importance is the height of a skyscraper with a faulty base, it is going to collapse anyway. 

So, why not take some time and focus on the basics. 

When you master the basics, you can do exploits and replicate success. 

It’s easy to dream about being the world’s best musician when you know how the musical notes work.

And knowing nouns, verbs, and adjectives even in their disguised apparels can make a hell of a writer out of you. 

Go back to the basics. 

Beta Life Series – Why Your Passion Matters

Beta Life Series – Why Your Passion Matters

Beta Life Series

Why Your Passion Matters

Samuel Osho

 A few years ago, “a passionate writer” dropped this question on Twitter for J.K. Rowling:

“What if the passionate writer is broke and can’t afford a MacBook Air?” 

And here comes Rowling’s iconic response: 

“I wrote first two Potters (Harry Potter Book) by hand and typed them on a 10-year-old typewriter. All a writer needs is talent and ink.” 

 

You must have heard countless chatters about a passion for A and J but there are no results to back up the evidence of their passion. 

Does this sound familiar? 

“Oh! All I need to be a superb photographer is a new DSLR camera.” 

The camera shows up, and nothing happens. 

“All I need is a standard microphone and I will start my podcast.” 

You got the microphone as a birthday gift, but you are yet to record a sample podcast show with it.

Passion expresses itself through drives and desires. It’s a fire; you can’t hide it; it burns and consumes everything in its path. As the tender flame glows and grows, everyone can see if it’s a blue or a red flame. 

If you are looking for excuses not to get the work done, you will find one. We often use a lack of specific tools as embroidery for our excuses. 

It’s time to stop looking for a MacBook Air before you get that book done, if you think about it enough, you will find hundreds of alternatives to get the job done. 

 

It’s great if you have the tools but it has often been observed that what stops us from becoming productive is necessary not lack of tools but an absence of passion and drive. 

Let your passion take the wheels and drive you to the finish line. And if passion can’t get the job done, you should add lots of discipline.

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